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The 9 Stages of Dating a Co-Worker

The Initial Attraction

Boy sees girl. Girl sees boy. Or, in your case, one of you sees the other walk by, dressed in classic business casual attire with coffee and laptop in hand. You think to yourself, “Wow, he/she is pretty cute. When did he/she start working here?” 
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The Social Media Stalking

Now, you attempt to figure out if this individual has a significant other. So, you stalk their Facebook. If they don’t have a listed relationship status or a Facebook profile at all, you resort to Instagram to see if they have posts with someone else in them. You don’t quit until you figure it out. 
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The Flirtation

Once you see that the object of your affection is indeed single, you test out your flirtation skills on them. You send instant messages like, “Coffee? :)” and subtle hints about what you’re up to this weekend. You try to contain yourself as to not freak them out, just in case they aren’t into you.
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The Considering of the Consequences

Depending on where you work, dating co-workers could result in some serious consequences, such as transferral, demotion, or even termination. For those in this kind of work environment, this may be the end of your budding relationship. But for workplaces where dating isn’t discouraged, you consider the personal consequences, such as if you two were to break up. 
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The Denial

You either deny your own attraction to them, or deny that they would ever be attracted to you. You recognize the potential consequences and aren’t sure if this person is worth it yet. You try to convince yourself that pursuing this person isn’t worth the risk. 
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The "Just Do It"

Eh, whatever. At this point you can no longer deny how much you like the other person, and if they like you back, you jump right into it. You go out to dinner on your own or you get together after a work event, and the sparks begin to fly. 
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The Awkward Adjustment

You’ve officially crossed the line from co-workers into something more, but you may not know yet what your “label” is. You're torn on whether or not to let your co-workers know because you aren’t sure what their reactions will be, so you two kind of keep it to yourselves for a while. 
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The It-Couple-ization

Slowly but surely (or immediately after you post a photo of you two on Facebook), your co-workers discover your relationship and hopefully celebrate with you. Then, everything kind of goes back to normal, except that you have a standing lunch date every day.  Provided that both of you are generally well-liked in the workplace, you’ll soon become the “it couple” of the office, which can put pressure on your relationship. You will find yourself actually enjoying going to work in the morning because you get to spend the whole day with that special someone, and it can improve the whole dynamic of the workplace. 
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The Future

It doesn’t take too long to know whether or not this is going to last or fizzle, so once you figure it out, everything could change forever. If it does work out, you may be happy working together or decide down the road that it would be better for your relationship if one or both of you found another job. Or, if you fizzle, one of you will probably end up working somewhere else unless you retain a non-awkward friendship after the breakup. Choose wisely. 
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